Trash men

I dunno what's wrong with men, but something it is. What do they think it means when a trash bag is placed next to the door? That it's decoration?

Whistle

I got a whistle the other day, and not from any construction workers, who anyway have that in their job description, but from a passing car.

They probably didn't see my face :).

Keep your distance

It's nice to know that I can still confuse men, however yesterday it was unintentionally. I was hanging with a latino, and as everybody knows, people from densely populated countries are used to stand, sit or walk close to other people.

I, however, come from a country where there is more space than people, and therefore I am more comfortable with keeping a bit of a distance to others. Really, I don't need to feel your breath or have you touch me just because you're standing too close.

Luckily here in Switzerland there is enough space, so we don't have to invade each others.

And yesterday I didn't mean to offend, I was just explaining how I felt, but I realize in hindsight that I confused the hell outta the latino. I hope he understands it was nothing personal.

Valentines date

I had a date tonight. It wasn't meant to be a Valentine's day date, but since I had to cancel last week due to my failing body, it just so happened.

Turned out to be fun, and a somebody who I might hang out with more times.

And who would've thought that I would spend an evening with a Sicilian who looked uncomfortably close to Gandolfini (except alive)? And enjoy it?

A date from hell

Omg, there are some weirdos out there. Had another date today with an older guy. I'm not opposed to having friends in all sorts of ages, so I thought why not?

But this particular one I should've skipped. The first thing he said to me was not "nice to meet you" but "you don't look like your picture". What was I supposed to say to that?

Then we took a walk and he kept on complaining just about everything. The women on the site who didn't respond to him, why weren't they? How the hell was I supposed to know?

Tried to change the subject to animals, did he perhaps have a dog? Then I got another rant about how the authorities just want to make money by requiring new dog owners to take a course, which I think is a good idea. And so on and so on.

After that he was back on the women subject. How he would never contact anybody who had "a couple of kg's too much" in her profile. I swallowed a laugh, nearly looked down at him and his protruding belly, thinking his BMI was definitely in the overweight area. And how he liked "natural beauty", showing me a pic of his "friend" who was a goodloooking 25-year-old. I was thinking maybe he had downloaded the pic from internet, until he told me he didn't know how to operate a computer, apparently the 25-year-old had helped him.

When he asked if we should go for a drink, I as politely as I could claimed to have a pressing engagement, bid him farewell and good luck, and fled.

Sunday date

I had a date today with a guy I met online. I've been registered to this dating site for quite a long time now, but am not active there. I just respond if somebody contacts me, and today I met this man who sent me a message and seemed to have a profile that spoke to me. Animal lover. He has a dog and a cat.

He turned out to be very nice, and just like I thought he'd be. Of course the impression he made on me improved dramatically by bringing me a small present. What woman doesn't love chocolate?

Luckily, none of us are looking for a romantic relationship, but for friendship, and I really do think this can be something. Meeting up now and then, taking walks with the dog, cooking together, correction I will have to cook since he doesn't, but no biggie, talking and just enjoy some company with each other.

And maybe I can talk him into doing the vitaparcours with me? Just like me he has lost weight, and is trying for a healthier lifestyle. Except for the smoking and wine-drinking of course :). And he will make me speak German.

It's funny that when people say in their profiles what languages they speak, and many of them tick English. Then when we meet they speak like two words. I, on the other hand, communicate almost effortlessly in German, and still say I'm only half-good. Very humble I am :).

Date Sunday

Had another date today. He seemed to be a nice person, and we took a stroll through town, talking easily and finding out things about each other.

My thoughts were that we may be good friends, and that he was fairly open and easy to talk to, but when we parted he said he needed to think about where to go next. Huh? What's to think about I thought, but fair enough. I have no stress in getting to know somebody more, who isn't interested. But I had to laugh about that he didn't even ask if I was interested, just took it for granted. Men!

Pergola man

Had another date tonight. We were supposed to meet under the pergola at Bürkliplatz, which is the place in Zürich where the ferries are anchoring. I was there on time, walked around, saw a guy who I thought was the one, walked up to him to ask "are you H?". He wasn't.

A pergola I understand is a secluded place with a roof over, we used to have one in the garden when I lived abroad. I wasn't sure where that was, so called him. He had given me his number. He was there he said, under the pergola, so walked around again and couldn't shake the feeling that the guy I had asked was the one (sitting there with his phone). So I asked again "are you sure you're not H?". He still wasn't.

Eventually I phoned again (quite irritated) and he was on the other side, claiming that the real Bürkliplatz was where he was. If he would've said the old dancing place I would've known.

Anyway, he was quite ok. Perhaps not my type exactly, but ok to spend an evening with. I was quite clear though, that any horizontal surfing would not be happening.

And even though he had a sense of humour, it wasn't my kind of humour. And I frown upon having hands on my thigh when not invited.

Nevertheless, even though not all of the people I meet are gonna be lifetime friends, they all have interesting stories and I like being out there. I believe it's called living the life.

A new friend?

Had another date yesterday, who turned out to be a nice surprise. He was polite, interesting to talk to and good fun. As I thought of him as harmless, I decided to invite him home for a coffee (him) and wine (me) before he had to drive home.

That's the difference between meeting people online and irl. Irl you have the opportunity to assess and get the feel about them in a much better way, and I'd like to think I'm good at that.

So maybe I have gotten myself a new friend.

And yes, he agreed to have the pic posted here, although I haven't given him the blog yet :).

This dating business

I have now been registered to this friendship/dating site for more than a year, and I do admit to not being very active.

The first guy I met, which is now about a year ago, I connected with immediately, and we are still friends and meet up around once a week for walks and dinners. We have become good friends, and that was exactly what I was looking for.

Then I had some exchanges on emails with a couple of guys, but didn't get the vibes and chose not to meet up with them. And as a friend and I was discussing the other day, if their interests show they are into astrology, why waste time?

I'm not the kinda person who wants to "get to know" somebody through emails and telephone calls, I want to meet them directly and then I'll know.

So today I had a blind date. Was taking a stroll into town, and when I left it was sunny and nice. After about five minutes it started to rain cats and dogs, and by the time I was at the meeting point I was drenched. Didn't bring an umbrella.

Even though I was on time, he wasn't. He had waited until it stopped raining and then arrived some five minutes later. With an umbrella. Hmmm, first negative impression.

And I know, as you get older you (read I) become more judgmental, but still. I would've thought that giving off a good first impression was important.

He was also surprised that I didn't get the Switzedütch after living here for twelve years, which I thought was a bit much coming from a guy who only speaks German.

Anyway, he turned out to be quite normal and I'm sure a nice guy, but for me he lacked a bit of energy. He wasn't so easy to talk to, and it didn't click immediately.

However, he wants to meet up again and I think I'll give him another chance. Perhaps, as another friend suggested, he was nervous. Not sure it'll be a lifelong friendship though. I think I'm more looking for people who pick me up, rather than pick on things I cannot do.

Give and take

Had a friend over tonight and needed some help with various chores in the house. So when he arrived I took him by the hand and led him to the fridge, where I showed him a cake I made in his honour.

He got so flattered so when he left my whole roof was hoovered free from spiders and other insects, plus some other minor issues were dealt with. Like a snail living in his (her?) own house, in the middle of my bedroom window. Urk! Now removed.

Men! Easy :). Love goes through the stomach, isn't that what they say? Mind you, he was also sent home with some leftovers, not only for him but also for the dog. I guess we're both happy in the end. Or rather, all three of us.

You're only as old as the man you feel

Haha, was having a conversation tonight with a friend regarding saving up in general and for pension in particular. Yes, I know, it doesn't sound very interesting or funny but it was when he said "yes, and when I retire in 35 years or so". Excuse me? In 35 years?

I might not be following German politics that well, so I didn't know that retirement age was 75 in Germany. Well done Angela Merkel!

Old times

Had a wee snooze this afternoon, due to the Biggest loser. Found that show on Youtube yesterday, featuring UK 2012 biggest loser, and couldn't stop watching. Was up until the crack of dawn, and thus was a little tired today.

Anyway. Had a dream about a man I once slept with way, way, way back. He was a doctor in the clinic I then worked in, and we had a small fling. It wasn't a romantic dream, it was more about the one and only time I visited him in his home, and got really put off by his slippers. I think that's when the fling dried out and died.

Funny that, how the past comes back and haunt you.

Lederhosen

Saw this guy tonight. Think this is the beginning of a beautiful friendship.

Me and a man

I understand that many of my friends do not know my taste in men. Mostly because they haven't seen me with one. I am picky I agree, and men have to be men. Big, bulky and muscular. And nice.

Tonight I met one, ok, so he wasn't perfect. Had tattooes. I hate tattooes. Why mutilate your body?

But when friend started to talk to him I kinda caved in. How can I compete with a pretty 18-year younger than me woman? Nah, I walked away. Too bad. It could've been something.

Letting him go

Five years since I broke up with the boyfriend. I'm really not a relationship type, but I kinda loved him and we had a good time together. At least the first year. Tonight I met his brother. When we first met he avoided me. Might have had something to do with age and him not speaking English. The last few years though when I have run into him he's been very appreciative. "Hi Annika, how're you doing?", kiss-kiss-kiss and the whole shallabaloo. Anyway, turned out that he is now my source of information about the ex. Told me some things I didn't know. So now I'm letting go. I am setting him (the boyfriend i.e., not his brother) free. Oh gad, I sounds like a sad twat don't I? So here goes: he's marrying an architect from Peru. And he's probably gonna bring her to Switzerland. Yeah, that's a good idea. An architect from Peru, thinking she could take up a job here. Yes, I think really building regulations in Switzerland are similar to the ones (if any) they have in Peru. HAHAHAHA!

Happily single

When the doctor took my anamnesis before examining my arm he was among other (and more arm-related) things asking if I was married. "No", I said, "happily single". I am perfectly aware of that it wasn't a come-on, a man who tells me his kids are 6,5 and 9,5 (or whatever it was) years old is not likely to be personally interested in my marital status. Which is just as well, since he had a really girly voice, hehe. Anyway. Was thinking about that today. I am not married, yet I had one man in my bed yesterday and another one today. Happily single is the shit!

Deal-breaker

Have a friend who had a hot date recently. Nice Italian bloke, super-handsome, good body and the vibes were right. When they finally got to it, it turned out he was a terrible kisser. Wet, slobbery fountain-like. A classic deal-breaker. If you don't know how to kiss it is very probable you suck in bed. Pun intended.

Güggeliman

Haha, the chicken man flirted with me. I passed by the main train station and decided to buy a chicken for dinner, when he smiled and said "such a blonde pretty lady cannot be Swiss". I decided against telling him that I these days have a little help with that. When I left he said "remember, I'm here every Wednesday". Haha, as if. He's old and short. From now on I will have to cook my own chicken.

Dating business

There is this guy I know, he's much younger than me so I try to coach him when it comes to dating. Perhaps not a good idea, but he's naive so he listens. Only, the problem is the women he dates. Yesterday he was out and the date told him first about her FB and then that she wants to marry and have kids. Dooohhhh! Who says that on a first date? Yes, they have known each other for some time, but never been on a date-date before. There is something seriously wrong with his choices. Or in this case with the woman. What woman goes on a first date telling the guy she fucks somebody on a regular basis, but she's looking for another loser to have kids with? Makes me ashamed of being a woman.